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by Dan74
Tue Oct 23, 2018 10:55 am
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)
Replies: 94
Views: 13818

Re: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)

Yes.

But Winton talks about more than a good example. He talks about a lack of the right rites of passage, aculturation and instead of a cultural erosion, of young men having to cobble together their personalities by themselves from cheap 'spare parts'..
by Dan74
Tue Oct 23, 2018 10:04 am
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Trump Anxiety Disorder.
Replies: 38
Views: 5372

Re: Trump Anxiety Disorder.

With Trump, I think it makes sense to try and separate Trump-the-man, Trump-the-politician and Trump-the-President. Trump-the-man is a shyster, womaniser, habitual liar and a narcissist, egotistic and shallow but also a charismatic deal-maker and a terrific self-promoter with excellent street-smarts...
by Dan74
Tue Oct 23, 2018 7:19 am
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)
Replies: 94
Views: 13818

Re: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)

Thank you for posting this, Kim. It's a very good piece, multifaceted. It raises many questions though. What should we do? What can we do??
by Dan74
Mon Oct 22, 2018 8:30 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Khashoggi's killing
Replies: 14
Views: 2523

Re: Khashoggi's killing

It's not only whataboutism, they are just not comparable instances. al-Jubeir is a very experienced spin-doctor for a regime that operate with a very different mindset to Western expectations. Does anyone really believe a word that man says? Look at his dead eyes, for goddsake… one sacrifices a lot ...
by Dan74
Sun Oct 21, 2018 3:43 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Khashoggi's killing
Replies: 14
Views: 2523

Re: Khashoggi's killing

Here's something we can all help with:
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by Dan74
Sat Oct 20, 2018 4:57 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Khashoggi's killing
Replies: 14
Views: 2523

Re: Khashoggi's killing

I've followed this story closely, partly because it is such a human story and such a barbaric act by a head of state. According to the US law, anyone who orders a murder is a murderer. So the question becomes, are they willing to sell weapons to a murderer, shake his hand, roll out the red carpet? T...
by Dan74
Thu Oct 18, 2018 3:22 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)
Replies: 94
Views: 13818

Re: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)

This is a stupid comment by Piers Morgan, that I'm sure he is ashamed of by now. I carried my kids like this plenty of times. There are also ones for your back. And yes, I agree - fictional characters that are most popular aren't great on kindness, gentleness and compassion. They are mostly about po...
by Dan74
Wed Oct 17, 2018 8:57 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)
Replies: 94
Views: 13818

Re: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)

... Let's pause for a moment to consider what the import of this statement is. What do we want to focus on, the suffering of women, how to help the victims, compassionate action, or vilification of men? If I say 'last year 55 million men committed violent acts against women', what would be the typi...
by Dan74
Tue Oct 16, 2018 6:37 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)
Replies: 94
Views: 13818

Re: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)

I will just throw this in here to shift, as it says, the emphasis from women's actions to men's behaviour - passive-voice.jpg :namaste: Kim Let's pause for a moment to consider what the import of this statement is. What do we want to focus on, the suffering of women, how to help the victims, compas...
by Dan74
Mon Oct 15, 2018 12:51 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Against neoliberalism
Replies: 84
Views: 11190

Re: Against neoliberalism

Yes. But it seems to me, the only way a true reform can work is if there is global action. Corporations generally move to more favourable environments, so if one country decides to implement an honest tax, they will move elsewhere. Same with fixing wages for the CEO, etc.. Either a concerted action,...
by Dan74
Mon Oct 15, 2018 8:25 am
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)
Replies: 94
Views: 13818

Re: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)

DeadCircuits, what you're saying is not conspiratorial at all, but rather the known way in which we are being manipulated in order to get our attention for the ads, to get our clicks, our buys and our votes. There are many good sources on this, from Ryan Holiday's classic Trust me, I'm Lying to deli...
by Dan74
Sat Oct 13, 2018 6:13 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Safe Spaces: how should we navigate the waters of Right Speech in the modern world
Replies: 12
Views: 2539

Re: Safe Spaces: how should we navigate the waters of Right Speech in the modern world

Justsit, yes, of course we do what is appropriate in the situation, the best way we know how. My point was that generally honest and open communication is preferable. For instance, if we met, you'd be the first male trans person I meet and I have no idea how I will initially feel. But rather than pr...
by Dan74
Thu Oct 11, 2018 8:42 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)
Replies: 94
Views: 13818

Re: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)

The definition of rape is sex without consent. I know the common image is a violent act, but no, this hasn't been necessarily the case for quite some time. The circumstances are taken into account at sentencing, but no consent means rape. In Sweden it is even a bit broader, as in what was alleged ag...
by Dan74
Thu Oct 11, 2018 8:06 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)
Replies: 94
Views: 13818

Re: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)

B, While as you say there is biology and across times and cultures things have often been very different, in most places these days, folks are taught (or should be taught) to respect others, which includes the wishes of others. Western boys and men, growing up in Western cultures, learn very early o...
by Dan74
Thu Oct 11, 2018 5:59 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)
Replies: 94
Views: 13818

Re: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)

B,

What kind of a demented creep thinks it's OK to force himself into an unconscious woman? I don't know man, maybe you should share a bit more about yourself. I am imagining a lot of frustration and disappointment with women behind your posts, but maybe I am off the mark.
by Dan74
Thu Oct 11, 2018 5:05 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)
Replies: 94
Views: 13818

Re: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)

Bundokji, frankly I don't see a problem with dressing provocatively at a party, when one is young, horny and on the lookout, as most of young men and women are at a certain age.
by Dan74
Thu Oct 11, 2018 11:37 am
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)
Replies: 94
Views: 13818

Re: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)

I sad sad story, which I am led to believe is only too common. As a student, over 20 years ago, I lived in a large shared flat right next to the University and we did have many parties and drinking. Not drugs (except marijuana, occasionally) and happy to say I don't know of any rapes. It was very me...
by Dan74
Wed Oct 10, 2018 8:34 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)
Replies: 94
Views: 13818

Re: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)

I watched the interview and was happy to see that the interviewer was very switched on and certainly didn't let the professor off the hook very lightly. As regards Peterson in general, having read a fair bit about the transgender amendment and his attendant fear-mongering, I am 100% with Kathy on th...
by Dan74
Tue Oct 09, 2018 9:01 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)
Replies: 94
Views: 13818

Re: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)

I am guessing Bundokji is trying to push against the common narrative around these matters in the anglophone world. For instance when the police in Victoria issued advice about the places for women to avoid at night, it was taken as victim blaming by some people with many indignant posts about 'why ...
by Dan74
Tue Oct 09, 2018 6:07 pm
Forum: Social Justice Dharma
Topic: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)
Replies: 94
Views: 13818

Re: Toxic Masculinity? Or how to be a real man but not an ***hole (or at least try)

Yes, there are extreme voices whom the media is only too eager to take up. Following several horrific rapes and murders in Melbourne, the idea of imposing a curfew on men was canvassed in the mainstream media. But there are also many sensible voices that are inclusive rather than vilifying and actua...